How to Navigate Stressful Times

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If you're just surrounded by people who are

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just talking about the problem, the problem is only getting

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bigger. You are not contributing to the solution. The solution is

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being the change in the world. You wish to see my favorite

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frickin quote, thank you, Gandhi. I say that every podcast

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Be the change in the world. You wish to see. Your frequency

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matters, and who you surround yourself with is everything. So

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notice what part of you shows up in your friendships and

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relationships, if you're showing up gossiping and complaining and

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blaming and being in victim mentality about what's happening

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in the world, and that's all you're having conversations with

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about right now, look in the mirror and check yourself. It's

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time to clean up your vibration and your consumption so that you

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can be that woman who attracts other women who are empowered

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and sovereign. It does not matter what is happening in the

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world. You can absolutely Thrive no matter what.

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Hello, beautiful. Welcome back to the new truth. Happy,

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International Women's Day one week and two days ago, I hope

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that wherever you are in the world that you have been

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celebrating the magnitude of what it means to be a woman like

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I think patriarchy is quite comical, because patriarchy a

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system that favors men versus matriarchy, which actually isn't

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women in charge. Matriarchy means the collective,

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collaborative. We're all equal, we're all the same, we're all

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working together. Wouldn't that be nice? But patriarchy, you

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know, over the years, has has squished women more and more and

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more and more over the centuries. And how, you know, we

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all are born and, you know, grow up feeling wildly expressed when

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we're little and then get repressed by the systems, and

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yet, there's nothing. There's no force more powerful on planet

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earth like not to compare. I know there's guys that listen to

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this podcast. You're all you're amazing too. We're all amazing.

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Human Life couldn't be created without both of us. So there's

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not, it's not like one's better than the other. But all I'm

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saying here is like we're pretty fucking extraordinary women.

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Like, think about it, human life would not exist well with both,

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but we birth. Okay, I haven't physically done this myself, but

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to have to hats off to all the women who have we birth human

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life. We have the capacity to grow a human inside of us and to

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birth it into the world, and then it's its own little soul.

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Okay, I know this isn't new information, but really, why are

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we not celebrating that? Why do we not make that a bigger deal?

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It's so crazy. Like, why is it when it's our birthdays, we're

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not honoring our moms and thinking about, like, holy crap,

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you did that. You grew me like, What? Women are fucking amazing.

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So that's where I want to start today. Wasn't planning on it,

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but I've just been reflecting on my the last week of my journey

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here in Nairobi, reconnecting with my community and on

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International Women's Day. If you follow me on Instagram, you

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would have seen I went to a dance event with my unbelievable

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dance teacher, sky. She's so amazing. She has this UN like,

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just extraordinary way of leading women, where everyone is

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dancing. There were 100 women in the room, Kenyan women, women

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from all over the world who live in Kenya, probably some

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tourists, I don't know. And she leads us in these dance

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workouts, and we're playing songs like we're listening to,

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like Rihanna, not Rihanna. Oh, my God, what's her name? Mary J

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Blige, all the legends. Maybe there was Rihanna, I don't know.

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Mary J Blige was there, and Celine Dion was there, and

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Beyonce was there. And, you know, all the legends that we

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grew up with, Whitney Houston, and we were dancing Britney

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Spears. That was fun. We were dancing all together, 100 women

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in a room, and we were all in sync, like, if you see the

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videos on Instagram, it's actually quite extraordinary

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what she's able to do. My dance teacher and create this. And

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we're not dancers. We're just like doing a workout class. It's

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got some dancing. It was so profound, but just a reminder

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of, like, how how much women are starving for connection. It's

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one of the reasons why I love Nairobi so much, is it's it's

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just like bubbling with so much connection and so many amazing

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things to do. And it really attracts amazing humans, like

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Kenyans are my favorite people on planet Earth. And then

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everyone I meet that's not Kenyan who moved to Kenya is

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pretty extraordinary, because they had the courage to leave

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wherever they were from and move to Africa. So it's just it draws

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in such an incredible, amazing group of humans. And when women

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gather here, it's just off the charts. Like we were all we all

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had sparkles on our faces. There was a glitter bar, and we were

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all doing each other sparkles like feels like high school or

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like a dance competition, and just all in cohesion together,

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all in community together. That's the matriarch. It's like,

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let's do this together. There and we're going to make magic

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together. So we are experiencing some stressful times on planet

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Earth. Yes, and you know, astrologically, it's like all

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part of the plan. There's nothing abnormal happening right

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now, as Abraham Hicks says, says, everything's going exactly

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as as it's supposed to. But the more we put our attention on how

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things shouldn't be how they are, the more we are suffering.

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So today's episode is all about how to navigate these stressful

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times. I've come up with some keys to support you. But you

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know, of course, listen to the new truth from the very

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beginning, because every episode, I think, will help you

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navigate stressful times. But the first thing I want to say

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is, as women, I know the men listening to men need men also,

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but as women, we need each other, and we need women who are

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not just women, but women who are vibing high. And I don't

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mean like fantasy high, where they're like fake and or drunk

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or high on drugs, but I mean women who are taking

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responsibility for their life, for their path, for their

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hearts, for their feelings, it is essential for us to surround

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ourselves with women, but not just any woman, Right? How many

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of your relationships are rooted in especially with what's

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happening in the world? Like just pay attention to your

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conversations. Are you What are you talking about with people

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right now? Are you talking about what's happening in the world?

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Are you talking are you arguing with reality? Are you talking

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about all the horrible things that are happening and how

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fucked the world is now? Crazy Donald Trump is remember I

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shared the story. I don't know if it was last week or the week

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before, about how I had before, about how I had my little temper

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tantrum meltdown to my bestie on the phone, and I was like, The

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world is crazy, and why are we here? I don't want to be here.

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And I was going through one of those moments. The difference

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between me and it me doing that, and how most people do it is I

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am intentionally processing something, allowing that part of

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myself that had taken over that day to get really loud, inviting

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her in, welcoming her to the party, letting her be heard by

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my best friend, who I know can hold space for me but not jump

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in the pit with me. That's the difference. She didn't jump in

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the pit with me. She just held space. I hear you. I know, yeah,

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it's crazy. I hear you, yeah, tell me more. And as I was doing

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that, I hold it. Was holding my Heart and Holding my belly, and

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I with my hands, and I was like, I've got you. And I felt it

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fully. And then I went to bed and I did a little like Angel

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cleansing healing session on myself, put on some healing

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frequency, said a prayer to my angels, and went to sleep and

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woke up feeling amazing the next day, and never again did I speak

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those words since that time. So that's a big difference between

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taking responsibility for because, of course, we're still

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going to be affected. This is not about not being affected.

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It's impossible, like we're we're in fantasy if we're not

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affected at all. However, when something arises, it's inviting

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you to meet it. It's inviting when, when you are activated,

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that is an invitation to go deeper into your relationship

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with yourself, to go deeper into your relationship with this old

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trauma that is there. But if you just stay in the story, which

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most people do, you are creating your own suffering. My love, it

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is so unnatural for us to know everything that's happening in

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the world and all the horrible things occurring. And, you know,

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I think about these systems like the government and the media and

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all these these guys that are in cahoots to keep people in fear

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and, you know, controlling the world. Whoever's in charge, I

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don't know. I don't know who's in charge. I mean, I've heard,

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but I don't know. But these systems are designed to keep

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people in fear, to keep people scared, and, and then to keep

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people divided and, and we're divided from each other, yes,

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like, politically, look how divided people are right now.

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Economically, people are so divided. We're divided in so

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many ways, and the systems are constantly programming us to

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keep dividing ourselves. But when you're really plugged into

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your divinity, that your soul, your source energy, we'll call

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it or or your connection, your interconnectedness to the

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universe, to the Divine matrix, to the quantum field, when

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you're really connected to who you truly are, not your

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conditioned self, not this little robot that you've been

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taught to

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be, but your sovereign soul, heroine self, when you are

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plugged into that Part of you, you do not take the bait. You do

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not have people cannot control you. You go your own way, right?

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And that's when, like the people that I know, and there's a lot

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of them, it might seem like a time where everybody is

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suffering, but I actually am surrounded by people who are

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thriving right now, and the same was true in covid tons. The

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people were suffering, and I was surrounded by people who are

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thriving and who are taking that time as an opportunity to grow,

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to develop, to evolve, to pivot to to to keep deepening in their

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relationship with themselves and each other. Because when we're

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connected to our divinity, we're also connected to everybody

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else. We're not separate. It's like then, it's like nature. I

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just actually watched this crazy reel last night that my brother

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sent me. My brother's having an awakening right now. It's so

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cute. I was hoping for that he had a massive heart attack a

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couple of years ago. I think I shared that on the podcast, and

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his awakening didn't happen right away. And I was like,

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isn't that a near death experience? Like he actually did

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die for a few minutes. And so was hoping that he was gonna

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come back around and, like, be enlightened after and he was

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totally not. He was exact same guy, complaining victim

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mentality, blaming everyone. And it didn't happen until very

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recently. He's having like, a health awakening where he's

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sending me non stop Instagram reels about, like, different

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with different health Teachers speaking out about all the

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bullshit health stuff that's keeping people sick and all the

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industries that are keeping people sick. It's so cute.

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Anyways, okay, no, I went on a sidebar about my brother. We

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were talking about taking responsibility and where you put

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your attention, and how the systems, yes, how the systems

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want to keep us in fear, right? These systems are designed to

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keep us separate from each other and separate from the truth of

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who we are. We're surrounded by them. And even, like, you know,

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all the like, the stuff about the Epstein files and this

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country's gone to war in that country. I mean, there's so many

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countries in war right now that we don't even know about, but we

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only know about the certain ones they want us to know. But like,

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anyways, I'm not gonna go down the rabbit hole, because

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honestly, I Okay. I will admit there was a time, because I'm a

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truth seeker. There was a time during covid where people were

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sending me conspiracy, quote, unquote. That is a gaslighting

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word that's designed to negate people's other theories, by the

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way, designed by the government. But people were sending me all

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these videos, and I was going dark down the rabbit hole, all

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the stuff that's being revealed right now, what I was exposed to

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during covid, and people were like, You're crazy. That's not

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true. And like, now it is. But I did, I realized I am. It's also

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the same energy going deep down those rabbit holes is exact same

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energy as watching the news. So this brings me to my second

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point. Actually, didn't really drive home the first one. I'm

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going to come back to it. But the second point is cleaning up

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your consumption. Because even the conspiracy videos, it's the

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same thing. It's like, okay, and I don't even call them

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conspiracies. We'll call them alternative theories. If you

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were like, I am very investigative, there is a part

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of me that wants to know the truth. And is like, Wait,

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something is off about this, and whenever something feels off, I

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want to know the truth. Will we ever fully know the truth?

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Probably not. This is it's a game. It's a reality TV show. It

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is a video game. This life, I get to choose what game I'm

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playing. And when I went down those rabbit holes in 2020 and

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became, all of a sudden, I was like, the friend that was the

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conspiracy theorist, the crazy one at the table, and I got

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intense, like I was really attached. I had crazy anxiety,

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and all of a sudden I couldn't sleep at night, and I was like,

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spinning my wheels, and I was going nuts. So is that better

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than watching the news? No, it's just the opposite side of the

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pendulum. It's like, where is my attention? Where I'm putting my

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attention matters more than you could ever know. So the second

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point, the second key to navigating stressful times, is

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to clean your consumption. Notice what you're putting into

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your subconscious, like people are obsessed with true crime.

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Okay? This is choose your own adventure. You get to choose

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what you want to do, but whatever you watch programs your

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subconscious mind. So I even used to watch Emily in Paris and

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like really light shows bridgerton, those shows are full

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of fantasy. Fantasy like what what we're supposed to look

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like, fantasy of what love is supposed to be, of what life is

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supposed to be. It is so they're, they're, they're still

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affecting us, right? Reality TV shows, like, oh, I don't watch

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the news, but I watch love Island. Or love is blind. It's

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like that that is so toxic, unless studying it from the lens

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of like, oh, what saboteur archetype is that, if you're

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using it as a tool to grow, okay, different. And again, I am

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not saying any of this to shame you or blame you or tell you to

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what to do. You choose your own adventure. I support you doing

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what's best for you. I'm just going to plant some seeds today,

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and maybe they'll come to fruition now. Maybe they'll come

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to fruition 10 years from now. It doesn't matter. Maybe they'll

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never will. But these are things that have really helped me clean

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up my frequency. So cleaning your consumption. What do you

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consume? And I will include food in this, right? Everything you

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put into your body, physically, spiritually, emotionally,

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mentally, what are you putting into your body? So shows are you

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watching? Shows that keep us separate from people. For. Your

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keep you separate from your divinity, separate from your

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soul, separate from yourself, even watching TV, it's like we

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puts us into a passive learning state, and you're like a zombie.

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So like, how much time are you spending doing that? Right? If

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you're doing it Okay, once we were having movie night once a

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month, or once a week, or something. Fine. But how much,

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how much time, like, people spend so much time watching

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shows nowadays. What are you watching? I'm like, if we're

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gonna watch anything, watch Planet Earth videos with David

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Attenborough, the legend of all legends, and learn about the

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profound power and magic of nature. Because you are nature.

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You are not separate from it. Oh, this that's, I forgot.

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That's where I was going with my brother. Okay, I'm gonna go into

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that nature. So he sent me this reel. It was so good. It was

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about how we are nature, and yet, humans are being sent

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bills. They're being sent they're like we have been put in

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this crazy prison system where animals just get to be free.

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They don't have to pay to live on planet Earth. They just get

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to be free. And we are, you know, enslaved by this system

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that keeps us oppressed, that keeps us repressed, and that is,

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I mean, it was really profound. But anyways, that's part of my

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brother's awakening, sending me that. So what are you watching

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that's having you feel limited, right? Think about all the fear

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based messaging in shows, in movies like, What are you

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watching, and how does it make you feel? Right? If you feel if

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you're watching something and you feel inspired or expanded

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after great I'm so particular now, like, I only watch YouTube

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when I feel like really resting and watching something. And I'll

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watch Greg Braden, or I'll watch I'll watch Bruce Lipton, or I'll

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watch an old Alan Watts video. I watch spiritual teachers that

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keep expanding what I believe is possible, to keep teaching me

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about quantum science, quantum physics and neuroplasticity and

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how we create our own reality. Like that's what I will spend my

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time watching. I will not spend my time watching things, and I

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can't even watch Netflix anymore. It's not and it wasn't

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even before I loved watching it on rest days. I'm a projector. I

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love to rest, and whenever I was resting, I would just like,

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watch a few episodes of a show. And I can't even do that

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anymore, because it just doesn't feel good. It feels like

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pointless. I'm like, why am I watching these fake people on

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the screen have all these dramatic problems, like it's

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drama, right? Your saboteur loves drama, so she's going to

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get off on watching dramatic shows. But then the more

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dramatic shows you're watching, the more drama is happening

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inside of you, right? It's actually feeding your saboteur.

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So here's the question, What am I consuming, and is it feeding

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my saboteur, or is it feeding my heroin and not heroin, the drug,

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you know what I mean? Is it feeding my soul, right? So even

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with food, right? Am I feeding it my saboteur? So for something

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like alcohol and again, non judgment, like you do you. I

Kate Harlow: 00:17:55

used to love having wine for sensuality, and it was a part of

Kate Harlow: 00:17:58

my journey. And now it's just not, I'll have it once in a blue

Kate Harlow: 00:18:01

moon, but it's just like, I don't like how it feels anymore,

Kate Harlow: 00:18:04

because my frequency feels so clean and it feels like it dims

Kate Harlow: 00:18:07

it down, and I'm not interested in being dimmed down.

Kate Harlow: 00:18:10

So everything you put into your body or you put into your mind

Kate Harlow: 00:18:17

has an impact, right? So is it your saboteur putting it in in

Kate Harlow: 00:18:21

your body or your mind. Or is it your heroin? Your heroine will

Kate Harlow: 00:18:25

put things into your body and mind that feels so nourishing,

Kate Harlow: 00:18:28

not just to your palate, not just your anxiety, right? If you

Kate Harlow: 00:18:31

have anxiety, your heroin is like tending to the anxiety,

Kate Harlow: 00:18:34

stop pouring gasoline on it. So if you're having a couple

Kate Harlow: 00:18:37

glasses of wine and numb your anxiety, it's going to be worse

Kate Harlow: 00:18:40

tomorrow, right? So that's pouring gasoline on it versus

Kate Harlow: 00:18:43

actually learning how to be with your feelings. Learning how to

Kate Harlow: 00:18:46

be this is what I teach in all of my programs, learning how to

Kate Harlow: 00:18:49

be in relationship with these younger parts of you that need

Kate Harlow: 00:18:52

your love. They don't need a drunk mom. They need a divine

Kate Harlow: 00:18:56

mama who is your heroine, to love her up when those, these

Kate Harlow: 00:19:01

little parts arise, when you feel triggered or activated,

Kate Harlow: 00:19:05

that is so important, right? So is it your saboteur just taking

Kate Harlow: 00:19:10

the quick fix? That's what Netflix is. That's what social

Kate Harlow: 00:19:14

media is. Scrolling on social media, what are you putting into

Kate Harlow: 00:19:17

your mind? Are you focusing? Are you watching the news? Are you

Kate Harlow: 00:19:20

not watching the news on the news, but you're watching the

Kate Harlow: 00:19:23

news on social media, right? It's like, where do you spend

Kate Harlow: 00:19:28

your time and energy? And so coming back to the first point,

Kate Harlow: 00:19:31

it's all about having refining your community and your the

Kate Harlow: 00:19:35

frequency of your community and who you surround yourself with.

Kate Harlow: 00:19:38

Women need women. We need community more, I think more

Kate Harlow: 00:19:41

than men. Men are hunters. We are gatherers. The gatherers

Kate Harlow: 00:19:44

need to be with our people. Women need women. We fucking

Kate Harlow: 00:19:48

need each other, but we need each other empowered. We need

Kate Harlow: 00:19:51

each other sovereign. We need each other, loving ourselves and

Kate Harlow: 00:19:54

loving each other and cheering each other on. We don't need

Kate Harlow: 00:19:58

each other, and our saboteur is jealous. Competing, gossiping,

Kate Harlow: 00:20:02

complaining, bonding through sacrifice, bonding through

Kate Harlow: 00:20:06

control, bonding through perfectionism, bonding through

Kate Harlow: 00:20:09

fakeness, bonding through hiding, bonding through talking

Kate Harlow: 00:20:14

about all the shit happening in the world and being victims of

Kate Harlow: 00:20:17

it like that is not serving you. You are the nobody is coming to

Kate Harlow: 00:20:22

rescue you, my love, we you have been fed messages your whole

Kate Harlow: 00:20:25

entire life, that one day a prince is going to come rescue

Kate Harlow: 00:20:28

you. He's a lot of money, he's going to have a white horse, and

Kate Harlow: 00:20:30

he's going to save you, he's going to throw you on the back,

Kate Harlow: 00:20:32

and you're going to ride off in the sunset, and you're going to

Kate Harlow: 00:20:35

live happily ever after. That, on some level, is still in the

Kate Harlow: 00:20:39

back of every woman's subconscious mind, that someday

Kate Harlow: 00:20:43

someone's going to come along and make it all better. But the

Kate Harlow: 00:20:46

truth is, nobody is coming to make it better except you. And

Kate Harlow: 00:20:50

it's not even you. It's your heroine. It's your soul, right?

Kate Harlow: 00:20:53

You have to start letting her lead, or else you will be

Kate Harlow: 00:20:57

creating your own suffering forever, right? Times are hard.

Kate Harlow: 00:21:01

Times have been hard forever. My God, like every I said this on,

Kate Harlow: 00:21:05

I think the New Year's episode, it's like every New Year's Eve

Kate Harlow: 00:21:08

for the past, as long as I've been doing this work, everyone's

Kate Harlow: 00:21:11

like, Oh, down with 2017 what that was? A shit show. Can't

Kate Harlow: 00:21:14

wait for the next year. And we're in fantasy about the

Kate Harlow: 00:21:16

future, and we're throwing out the baby with the bath water,

Kate Harlow: 00:21:19

throwing out the past, right? We're constantly disregarding,

Kate Harlow: 00:21:22

we're constantly discounting what happened and being in a

Kate Harlow: 00:21:26

fantasy of the future, which means we're missing everything.

Kate Harlow: 00:21:29

You're missing the magic and the medicine and the beauty that's

Kate Harlow: 00:21:32

in the painful moments when you learn to be with your pain, and

Kate Harlow: 00:21:35

you're also missing all of the magic and pleasure and joy and

Kate Harlow: 00:21:41

beauty that's all around you. When you're too busy blaming the

Kate Harlow: 00:21:45

past and jumping into the future and fantasizing about the

Kate Harlow: 00:21:48

future, you have to learn how to be here right now and be with

Kate Harlow: 00:21:52

yourself and surround yourself with other women who are doing

Kate Harlow: 00:21:55

the same. So if you're ready to up level your community. I don't

Kate Harlow: 00:21:58

know if you heard the commercial at the beginning of this

Kate Harlow: 00:22:00

episode, but I'm hosting a new truth live celebration. Event

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never happened ever before. It's totally free, march 29 at 8am

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Pacific. That's a Sunday. I chose a Sunday because more

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women can come, and it is the intention of this event is for

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us to gather, for us to be around other women who are

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empowered. For you can you may meet other women from your city.

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You'll meet women who you can connect with virtually. The

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community that I am a part of, that I've co created with the

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universe is like, I can't even tell you if you're not in it,

Kate Harlow: 00:22:35

you are missing out. It is unbelievable. We had our final

Kate Harlow: 00:22:39

reclamation call last night for my reclamation program that I

Kate Harlow: 00:22:42

run once a year, and all the women were just like the the

Kate Harlow: 00:22:45

sisterhood and the deep, empowering friendships that have

Kate Harlow: 00:22:49

developed inside of that community are off the charts.

Kate Harlow: 00:22:51

They are flying across the world to meet each other, going on

Kate Harlow: 00:22:54

trips together, have and then saying, like, I never want to

Kate Harlow: 00:22:57

travel with anyone who's not a heroine again, because women who

Kate Harlow: 00:23:00

are in their heroine, quote, unquote, aka, living from their

Kate Harlow: 00:23:03

sovereignty and their soul and their wholeness, taking

Kate Harlow: 00:23:07

responsibility for their pain and their wounded little parts

Kate Harlow: 00:23:09

that arise. It is so much more enjoyable to be in deep

Kate Harlow: 00:23:15

relationship. I mean, it's not even possible to deep, be in

Kate Harlow: 00:23:18

deep relationship with women who are in their saboteurs. You

Kate Harlow: 00:23:20

might think you have a close friendship, quote, unquote, but

Kate Harlow: 00:23:23

to be with women who are sovereign is a totally different

Kate Harlow: 00:23:27

ball game. And I think of I look around at my life now, every

Kate Harlow: 00:23:30

woman in my life is sovereign, and I wouldn't have it any other

Kate Harlow: 00:23:33

way, like I have no interest in being in close relationship with

Kate Harlow: 00:23:38

anyone who doesn't take responsibility for themselves

Kate Harlow: 00:23:41

and doesn't, doesn't co create their life with the universe,

Kate Harlow: 00:23:44

rather than living in this victim mentality that the world

Kate Harlow: 00:23:46

sucks and we're all going, it's all going to shit and like we're

Kate Harlow: 00:23:49

all screwed, right? If you're just surrounded by people who

Kate Harlow: 00:23:52

are just talking about the problem, the problems only

Kate Harlow: 00:23:55

getting bigger. You are not contributing to the solution.

Kate Harlow: 00:23:58

The solution is being the change in the world. You wish to see my

Kate Harlow: 00:24:01

favorite frickin quote, thank you, Gandhi, I say that every

Kate Harlow: 00:24:04

call, every every podcast, yeah, be the change in the world you

Kate Harlow: 00:24:10

wish to see your frequency matters and who you surround

Kate Harlow: 00:24:12

yourself with is everything. So notice what part of you shows up

Kate Harlow: 00:24:16

in your friendships and relationships, if you're showing

Kate Harlow: 00:24:19

up gossiping and complaining and blaming and being in victim

Kate Harlow: 00:24:22

mentality about what's happening in the world, and that's all

Kate Harlow: 00:24:25

you're having conversations with about right now. Look in the

Kate Harlow: 00:24:28

mirror and check yourself. It's time to clean up your vibration

Kate Harlow: 00:24:31

and your consumption so that you can be that woman who attracts

Kate Harlow: 00:24:37

other women who are empowered and sovereign. It does not

Kate Harlow: 00:24:40

matter what is happening in the world, you can absolutely Thrive

Kate Harlow: 00:24:43

no matter what. Covid was a tremendous time of growth,

Kate Harlow: 00:24:46

growth for me, so many new things were born during covid,

Kate Harlow: 00:24:51

the reclamation expanded love masterclass, the new truth

Kate Harlow: 00:24:54

podcast, like I took my live event business and I turned it

Kate Harlow: 00:24:59

into an awesome. Online business so that I could reach a whole

Kate Harlow: 00:25:02

lot more women. So covid became this incubator time where I got

Kate Harlow: 00:25:06

to work and I did things that would expand my purpose and

Kate Harlow: 00:25:10

expand my heart and expand my joy and expand my community,

Kate Harlow: 00:25:13

rather than just being a victim of what was happening. Did that

Kate Harlow: 00:25:17

mean I felt good in every day and I wasn't scared in moments?

Kate Harlow: 00:25:20

And feeling my feels no but when I feel scared or feel my feels,

Kate Harlow: 00:25:24

I know it's a young part of me, and I know how to be with her

Kate Harlow: 00:25:27

and how to help her move through it. So it is so important that

Kate Harlow: 00:25:33

you are mindful with who you surround yourself with, that you

Kate Harlow: 00:25:35

take responsibility for how you're showing up in your

Kate Harlow: 00:25:38

friendships, and then you spend time investing in the

Kate Harlow: 00:25:41

friendships that you feel empowered by, that you feel

Kate Harlow: 00:25:43

inspired by, women who actually spark you, who are standing for

Kate Harlow: 00:25:48

something, who are living a life that inspires you. That's how

Kate Harlow: 00:25:52

you need to spend your time with okay, I know I talked about the

Kate Harlow: 00:25:55

event that I didn't go too far into it. So the march 29 8am,

Kate Harlow: 00:25:58

the new truth celebration. The point of this event is to

Kate Harlow: 00:26:01

celebrate all of us, to celebrate the new truth, to

Kate Harlow: 00:26:03

celebrate the last year that I've held it on my own, even

Kate Harlow: 00:26:06

though Regina, my saboteur, said, No, don't do it. Nobody

Kate Harlow: 00:26:08

will everyone will stop listening. Here we are. We're

Kate Harlow: 00:26:11

still here. Thank you for staying.

Kate Harlow: 00:26:13

And to celebrate the courage it takes to go our own way, and the

Kate Harlow: 00:26:19

more we surround ourselves with women who are doing that, and

Kate Harlow: 00:26:22

hear stories and get lit up and feel connections to women, and

Kate Harlow: 00:26:26

then reach out and develop those connections, the more empowered

Kate Harlow: 00:26:29

you will be. So join us at the new truth event and let us

Kate Harlow: 00:26:32

celebrate together. I'm going to be giving away some epic prizes,

Kate Harlow: 00:26:35

epic giveaways. There's going to be three draw three draws, one

Kate Harlow: 00:26:38

reclamation course, one spot at my upcoming expanded love

Kate Harlow: 00:26:42

weekend, which is normally just for my community, but one of you

Kate Harlow: 00:26:45

gets to come. It is in Austin, Texas at the end of the summer.

Kate Harlow: 00:26:50

And one spot in my new six week frequency upgrade program called

Kate Harlow: 00:26:55

the shift. So I'm giving those away six week one on one

Kate Harlow: 00:26:58

coaching program that is so I'm giving those away at the new

Kate Harlow: 00:27:02

truth event, but you have to be there live to get entered for

Kate Harlow: 00:27:05

the draw, and you have to register to join. So there's a

Kate Harlow: 00:27:08

registration link below this episode, and also there's a

Kate Harlow: 00:27:11

registration link on my website, the unscripted woman.com and on

Kate Harlow: 00:27:14

my Instagram. Okay, so the three keys, let me be clear. The first

Kate Harlow: 00:27:18

one is clean up the frequency of your community, if you're

Kate Harlow: 00:27:21

surrounded by people who blame, who complain, who talk about all

Kate Harlow: 00:27:25

the things going on in the world, and that's what they

Kate Harlow: 00:27:27

spend their attention on. And these are the conversations

Kate Harlow: 00:27:30

you're having. And you know people that say things like, Oh,

Kate Harlow: 00:27:33

you have to stay informed. It's so irresponsible to not be

Kate Harlow: 00:27:36

informed. Why? So you can suffer. You will be informed.

Kate Harlow: 00:27:39

There's going to be things that you will be informed as, but you

Kate Harlow: 00:27:41

do not need to spend all your time and energy there. You

Kate Harlow: 00:27:44

whatever you put your attention on expands, right? So if we want

Kate Harlow: 00:27:48

to change the world, are we going to change the world by

Kate Harlow: 00:27:50

talking about the problem over and over and over again and then

Kate Harlow: 00:27:53

blaming all the people in charge? How is that going to

Kate Harlow: 00:27:56

change anything that's not changing anything? This is the

Kate Harlow: 00:27:59

awakening. If we look at astrology. That's what's

Kate Harlow: 00:28:01

happening right now. The powers that be are getting louder and

Kate Harlow: 00:28:04

they're getting more aggressive and they're getting more intense

Kate Harlow: 00:28:06

because they're about to implode this. Old systems are falling

Kate Harlow: 00:28:09

away so that new ones can be born, and consciousness on

Kate Harlow: 00:28:12

planet Earth is rising drastically. So this is the time

Kate Harlow: 00:28:17

to take responsibility for your consciousness, for your

Kate Harlow: 00:28:19

frequency, for your attention. Wherever you put your attention

Kate Harlow: 00:28:23

is what your energy frequency becomes. What radio station are

Kate Harlow: 00:28:27

you choosing? You're choosing it. My loves. So clean up your

Kate Harlow: 00:28:31

community and your network. Don't just blame the people in

Kate Harlow: 00:28:34

your life. Also clean up how you're showing up inside of your

Kate Harlow: 00:28:36

friendships and who you're showing up as, but start to go

Kate Harlow: 00:28:39

hang out with women that inspire you. Come to the new truth

Kate Harlow: 00:28:43

event, go to yoga studios, go to sound baths, go to places where

Kate Harlow: 00:28:48

you know you're going to find people who are actually,

Kate Harlow: 00:28:50

intentionally taking responsibility for themselves in

Kate Harlow: 00:28:52

their lives, who are healthy, who are vibrating, who are

Kate Harlow: 00:28:56

expansive, who inspire you. That's number one. Number two is

Kate Harlow: 00:29:00

clean your consumption, which we already talked about, notice

Kate Harlow: 00:29:04

what you put in your body, and again, not from shame or blame,

Kate Harlow: 00:29:06

but just know, start to pay attention. Maybe get a little a

Kate Harlow: 00:29:09

little diary and start logging. How do you feel after you watch

Kate Harlow: 00:29:13

Netflix? How do you feel after you watch reality TV? How do you

Kate Harlow: 00:29:18

feel after you watch the news? How do you feel after scrolling

Kate Harlow: 00:29:20

on Facebook. How do you feel after scrolling on social media?

Kate Harlow: 00:29:23

How do you feel after drinking alcohol? How do you feel after

Kate Harlow: 00:29:27

eating I don't know gluten. I was allergic to gluten forever,

Kate Harlow: 00:29:30

and it wasn't until I started getting rashes on my face that I

Kate Harlow: 00:29:32

actually gave it up. It's like, was so hard, but now I'm like,

Kate Harlow: 00:29:37

now I feel amazing not having it. So it's like, what are you

Kate Harlow: 00:29:40

putting in your body that you know is hurting? You just start

Kate Harlow: 00:29:43

to track it right. Start to track it, and then start to

Kate Harlow: 00:29:49

track the things you do for your soul, like meditation, like

Kate Harlow: 00:29:53

movement, like dance classes, like Improv Theater, like

Kate Harlow: 00:29:57

musical theaters, like yoga, like. Tai Chi, like walks in the

Kate Harlow: 00:30:01

forest, like traveling, like come into the immersion. Notice

Kate Harlow: 00:30:06

all the things that you're doing for your soul and how you feel

Kate Harlow: 00:30:10

after that. Right pay attention. Do a meditation every single

Kate Harlow: 00:30:15

morning right now, I'm doing one with my friend Leah. She does

Kate Harlow: 00:30:19

these amazing kriyas, Kirchen kriya, which is, I think, from

Kate Harlow: 00:30:22

Kundalini. And it's like chanting and singing in the

Kate Harlow: 00:30:26

morning for 11 minutes. So beautiful. And I feel amazing

Kate Harlow: 00:30:29

after so notice that, you know, I notice if I end up watching

Kate Harlow: 00:30:34

even a YouTube video of a spiritual teacher before bed, I

Kate Harlow: 00:30:37

have a restless sleep. If I eat dinner too late, I have a

Kate Harlow: 00:30:40

restless sleep. And if I don't have any technology in my room

Kate Harlow: 00:30:44

and I'm not watching anything, I have an amazing sleep. If I'm

Kate Harlow: 00:30:50

talking to my angels before bed and talking to my nervous system

Kate Harlow: 00:30:53

before bed and putting my hands on my body and setting

Kate Harlow: 00:30:56

intentions, I have an amazing sleep. Wow, isn't it wild we

Kate Harlow: 00:31:00

have it's like, actually quite simple cleaning up our

Kate Harlow: 00:31:04

frequency, but we make it so complicated, and our saboteurs

Kate Harlow: 00:31:08

are so attached to all the habits that make us feel bad. So

Kate Harlow: 00:31:11

clean those habits up. We are on information overload right now.

Kate Harlow: 00:31:15

We're not supposed to be consuming all the messages we're

Kate Harlow: 00:31:18

consuming and everything that's happening in the world. It's

Kate Harlow: 00:31:20

insane. So shut the information down. The less information

Kate Harlow: 00:31:24

you're consuming, the better. Then you'll be able to tap into

Kate Harlow: 00:31:27

your inner sage and your inner wisdom, like there's so much

Kate Harlow: 00:31:30

wisdom inside of you that you've not even tapped into if you're

Kate Harlow: 00:31:33

so busy listening to everyone else. So get quiet, meditate

Kate Harlow: 00:31:37

instead of listening to the frickin news or like true

Kate Harlow: 00:31:41

crimes, or like reality, drama, TV, like, what are you putting

Kate Harlow: 00:31:45

into your subconscious? You Your mind, your saboteur mind, will

Kate Harlow: 00:31:49

tell you it doesn't affect you, but it does so start to pay

Kate Harlow: 00:31:52

attention. Just start to notice. And if you just feel shitty all

Kate Harlow: 00:31:55

the time, and your nervous system is very dysregulated, you

Kate Harlow: 00:31:58

won't even notice. It's like when you do a cleanse, and then

Kate Harlow: 00:32:01

you try and add back sugar after or alcohol or gluten or whatever

Kate Harlow: 00:32:06

it you notice the impact. My friend, who's obsessed with

Kate Harlow: 00:32:10

gluten everything, she cut it out for like, a week, and then

Kate Harlow: 00:32:14

she had a bowl of pasta, and she was like, Oh my God. I feel like

Kate Harlow: 00:32:17

I'm like, I feel like I'm turning into a zombie, and all

Kate Harlow: 00:32:20

of a sudden I'm like, gonna fall off my chair like it was so

Kate Harlow: 00:32:23

obvious to her. But before that, she was like,

Kate Harlow: 00:32:24

gluten is not bad for me. I feel amazing. So if you don't cut

Kate Harlow: 00:32:29

things out, you can't know how what the impact is that they're

Kate Harlow: 00:32:33

having. But intuitively, you know your body knows, your heart

Kate Harlow: 00:32:37

knows. So clean it up. Take responsibility for how you feel,

Kate Harlow: 00:32:42

my loves, you can clean it up. Clean up the people you surround

Kate Harlow: 00:32:45

yourself with. Clean up the food. Clean up the Netflix.

Kate Harlow: 00:32:48

Clean up the Botox. Said, with love, I know you're all being

Kate Harlow: 00:32:52

bombarded with messages that we're not supposed to age and

Kate Harlow: 00:32:54

we're supposed to stay the same forever and freeze ourselves in

Kate Harlow: 00:32:57

time. I haven't talked about Botox in a long time, but it is

Kate Harlow: 00:33:00

the second most toxic chemical on planet Earth, and it's

Kate Harlow: 00:33:02

freezing your ability to express yourself. I can't even watch TV

Kate Harlow: 00:33:05

anymore, for that's part of the reason I can't watch shows.

Kate Harlow: 00:33:07

Everyone has so much Botox they don't even you can't even see

Kate Harlow: 00:33:10

them. Feeling that has such an impact on your psychology and

Kate Harlow: 00:33:14

your heart and your nervous system and your anxiety. Oh, my

Kate Harlow: 00:33:17

God. Like more than we could ever know. We got to start

Kate Harlow: 00:33:20

talking about that more. It is so toxic for emotionally,

Kate Harlow: 00:33:26

physically, spiritually, it is toxic on every level, and is not

Kate Harlow: 00:33:30

your fault. We are so brainwashed by by that industry,

Kate Harlow: 00:33:34

by the beauty industry, but I mean, we're just by this

Kate Harlow: 00:33:37

Hollywood. We're brainwashed by everyone that we're all supposed

Kate Harlow: 00:33:40

to be like zombie robots. We're turning into AI. It's crazy.

Kate Harlow: 00:33:44

Everyone's scared AI is going to take over. We're literally

Kate Harlow: 00:33:47

becoming it. So be mindful. If you were like I said this on an

Kate Harlow: 00:33:51

episode a long time ago about body love. This is true with

Kate Harlow: 00:33:55

food, with alcohol, with Botox, with Netflix. It's like, what is

Kate Harlow: 00:33:59

the most loving thing I could do is this choice rooted in self

Kate Harlow: 00:34:02

love. There's no way women say, Oh yeah, my Botox is for

Kate Harlow: 00:34:07

confidence, so that's self love. I'm sorry, freezing your ability

Kate Harlow: 00:34:10

to express yourself and injecting the second most toxic

Kate Harlow: 00:34:14

chemical on planet Earth to your face and the right in front of

Kate Harlow: 00:34:17

your brain. Like the long term studies are not even out yet,

Kate Harlow: 00:34:21

because this trend is new, that that is not the like if you were

Kate Harlow: 00:34:26

actually rooted in self love, you would never, ever do

Kate Harlow: 00:34:31

something like that. So again, said with love, not your fault.

Kate Harlow: 00:34:34

I'm not judging you. I'm just offering something. Because if

Kate Harlow: 00:34:38

you're stressed out and you're overwhelmed and you're exhausted

Kate Harlow: 00:34:41

and you feel like shit, and you don't think that has an impact

Kate Harlow: 00:34:45

on you. I have five clients who had breast implants removed in

Kate Harlow: 00:34:48

the last two years, and the day they got their breast implants

Kate Harlow: 00:34:52

removed, they felt like a brand new person. They felt like their

Kate Harlow: 00:34:55

energy was back. They could breathe again. They could feel

Kate Harlow: 00:34:58

again like the. Actual damage that has. Our body will never

Kate Harlow: 00:35:03

stop fighting a foreign object, object that's in it, and Botox

Kate Harlow: 00:35:06

and injections are the same thing. It's a foreign object.

Kate Harlow: 00:35:10

Your body is never going to stop trying to push it out and trying

Kate Harlow: 00:35:12

to get rid of it. So but, but we're fed so many messages that

Kate Harlow: 00:35:16

brainwash us to believe something else. So again, do

Kate Harlow: 00:35:19

what feels right for you. Perhaps this is seeds for the

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future, said with so much love, but you get to create your own

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reality. And if you're consuming a bunch of toxic shit, you are

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going to create your own stress. So coming to the last key,

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becoming a caretaker of your frequency, that is the last key,

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the number one key of navigating stressful times, right? You can

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stay in the external world and get pulled here and pulled there

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and swept here and swept there and up and down and high and low

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and around and around, and that's an option. Or you can

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devote your self to feeling good. That's what all of my

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programs teach women how to do the reclamation, the immersion.

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My one on one work, it's all about teaching women how to take

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true responsibility for how they feel and for the frequency that

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they carry in the world. If you are on drugs, you cannot feel

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your frequency, you cannot feel your heart. You cannot fully

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feel your pleasure and your joy and your sadness and your rage

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and all the beautiful feelings inside of you that need to be

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felt. So to become a caretaker of your frequency, you need to

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clean everything up rather than so. Anyway, what I was

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originally going to say about the doctors is like, they have

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us be afraid of our feelings. Like, when I have, I have all my

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clients go off antidepressants, if they're on them, or anti

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anxiety medication, not because I tell them to, because they get

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to a place where they feel so good that they're like, but they

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can feel a ceiling. They're like, there's something capping

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me here. I can't quite feel everything, but they feel so

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good because they're in alignment. You're only depressed

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and anxious because you're out of alignment. So when you learn

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how to be fully alignment with your soul and your heart and the

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truth of who you are, you don't need drugs anymore. So when they

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go off the drugs, they go to the doctor to talk about it, and the

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doctors are like, Oh, no, no, no. Like, just stay on a small

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dose. Like you can't go off it. Like you you can't handle your

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feelings. And it's like, no, actually, I've learned how to be

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in relationship with my feelings, and that all of my

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feelings are beautiful and welcome and important. Have you

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seen the movie Inside Out, like all of your feelings matter,

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they're all important, and they only run the show if your

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saboteur is in charge, right? If you're making choices that are

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out of alignment. The only time you get trapped in one feeling

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that's that's painful for a long period of time is because you're

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in a story and you're in your saboteur, and you're keeping it

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trapped there. So learning how to be in relationships with your

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feelings is one of the most important life skills you could

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ever learn. And what does that mean? It means when you're

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activated, to be able to let your saboteur vent her stories

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and then get underneath. What am I feeling? I'm feeling anxious,

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I'm feeling insecure, I'm feeling sad, I'm feeling

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overwhelmed. Okay, that's the part that we address, through

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movement, through through embodiment practices, through

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writing practices, through feeling practices, but where you

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start to cultivate and activate the feelings so they can be met

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and felt fully, like a three year old, when you feel your

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feelings to the bottom, now you come back to your grounded

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frequency, and now we can increase your vibration, right?

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You first you feel the muck, you feel all the stuff that's

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blocking your light and your divinity. So this is how we

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caretake your frequency. You have to know how to be in

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relationship with your feelings and how to feel them and express

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them fully without getting trapped in the story. And then

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you meditate. You spend time creating space, devoting

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yourself to your soul, to your divinity, to the source inside

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of you, to the love that's inside of you, to the beauty

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that's inside of you. And you learn how to plug in and be with

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that energy and just be. This skill is, this is one of the

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things they said in that video about the animals on planet

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Earth Nate. They don't have to pay rent. They don't have to pay

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to live on planet Earth. And they, they, they just are.

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They're the we're. We are the only species that doesn't know

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how to be but our we are. We are nature. We're supposed to be

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being, but we're not being. We've been taught to do, do, do,

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do, do, do, do. So once you've learned how to feel your

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feelings and regulate your nervous system, now you can

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expand your capacity to just be. And most people are like, oh,

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man, I can't be in meditation because they don't know how to

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be, because your saboteur so loud that you you can't be with

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yourself. Do you know how much of your life will change when

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you can be with yourself? I used to not be able to meditate. I

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spend three hours almost every day singing, and you probably be

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like, there's no time for that. You create the time, and when

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you create a life you love, you're in charge of your own

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schedule. Anyways. So. That's I wasn't born into this. I had

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created this right? I created this schedule so that I couldn't

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and even living on the other side of the world with my

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clients, on the other side of the world, I get to have my

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mornings all to me. And I go to the gym and I do a class, and

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then I come before I go to the gym, I meditate and I come back,

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and I usually meditate for another two hours. I sing in the

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morning, I do the chanting thing and just a short meditation

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before the gym, and then I come back and I sing and I cry and I

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feel, and I do it all with my eyes closed. Sometimes I open my

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eyes and connect with myself in the mirror. I meditate on a

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cushion in front of the mirror, but I just am in the present

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moment, being with myself. That is self love. That is like the

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ultimate act of self love, but there's layers we have to move

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through to get there. So if everything I'm saying feels like

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insane to you, I'm going to give you an invitation right now,

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besides joining us at the new truth event, I have just, I'm, I

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am. I have just created a six week coaching container,

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mentoring container, with me. I've never done that before. My

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mentoring has always been six to nine months minimum. It's very

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deep work, and it's, it's because it's a lot more

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untethering from but the frequency is kind of speeding

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up, and people are transforming quickly. People are waking up

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quickly. So I've decided, and it, I don't know how long I'll

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be offering this for. I have a couple of spots for coming up, a

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couple of spots opening up as I wrap with a couple of my clients

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this month. It's called the shift, and it's a six week

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intensive with me, one on one, where we're going to go really

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deep, and we are going to upgrade your frequency so that

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you are taking full responsibility for your

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frequency, and you are creating a new frequency in your life,

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and you're choosing what radio station you want to be on,

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because you get to choose. You are in charge. And guess what?

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The saboteur will seduce the crap out of you to stay in the

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old frequency. Oh, you got to stay informed. It's

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irresponsible not to. It's like, oh, thank you, Joe, thank you

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for telling me what you think you need to do. I'm going to

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actually choose the thing that feels best for me, right?

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Everyone's walking around. How many pregnant women get advice

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from strangers? Everyone's walking around giving advice to

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each other, trying to keep them in the in the box, trying to

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keep them in the system. Really, right? Like everyone who chose

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to not get vaccinated during covid, people that were

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vaccinated were like operating on behalf of the government, on

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behalf of the Health People saying you need to get

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vaccinated you. And instead of being like, actually look in the

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mirror. That's for yourself, I'm going to do the thing that's

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right for me as you're going to do the thing that's right for

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you, right? This is your life. Nobody's coming to rescue you.

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There is no man on a white horse not to say you want to have an

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amazing man show up in your life, but he still can't rescue

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you from your inner world. You have to clean it up, and this is

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going to benefit every facet of your life, your marriage, your

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motherhood, your your friendships, your life's

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purpose. It's all connected. If you're interested in the shift I

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didn't say this, reach out to me. Just send me a DM. I won't

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have a link for it or anything below the episode, but just send

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me a DM on Instagram, on Facebook, send me an email. Kate

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Harlow, X o@gmail.com,

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or you can send a message through my website, but just

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reach out. But this is your life. You have to take

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responsibility. You have to take charge. Nobody can do it for

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you. Clean up your community. Clean up how you're showing

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enough. Up how you're showing up in your relationships and your

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friendships. What vibration Are you bringing? Are you empowered?

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Are you inspired? Are you taking responsibility, or are you being

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a victim? Are you blaming? Are you complaining? Clean up what

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you're consuming. Clean up the information you're taking in,

Kate Harlow: 00:43:33

less information less is more and what information you're

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taking in, take in information that expands you, that makes you

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feel more possibility and more hope and more inspiration and

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more excitement for what's coming. And then become the

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absolute caretaker of your frequency, completely devoted to

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morning practices, rituals, devoting yourself to if you

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don't know how to meditate, learn, spend time getting to

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know this part of you, your soul will love it. Your soul my

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that's what I realized. My saboteur hated meditating, but

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my body and my soul fucking love it. My Spirit loves it. And then

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I get to be that person that walks through the world who's

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just present and connected and feeling good and aligned. So

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much more is possible for you. I love you. I believe in you.

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Spread this message to every woman you know needs to hear it

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to help her through stressful times, and I'll see you at the

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new truth live event coming up so soon, march 29 8am Pacific.

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Link below this episode, can't wait to meet you and hear all

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your stories. My loves. Big kiss.