When Everything Falls Apart

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And I believe the majority of our suffering

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doesn't come from the thing itself, but it comes from the

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dramatization of the thing. It comes from the stories we tell

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ourselves about the thing that happened. It comes from us

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taking the story and then telling 10 of our friends and

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then complaining about it and then and and then being arguing

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with it and then believing that it should be different than it

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is. This is the root of all suffering. Hello, my loves. Kate

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Harlow, here, welcome back to season three of the new truth

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podcast. If you are new here, there's hundreds of episodes for

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you to catch up on and if you've been here a while, I'm so happy

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you're here with me

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on this now. Sunny Day started out rainy in Nairobi. I am Oh my

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gosh. I just had the coolest experience I have to share. I

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was just about to hit record about an hour ago, and then I

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was like, I want to sing a song. So I sang a song, songbird by

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Eva Cassidy, if you know, it so beautiful. It's it was in the

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movie Love, actually. And I sang it and with my eyes closed in a

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meditation, but like with the microphone, I was sitting in my

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podcasting seat, and it was such a beautiful experience. And then

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another good song came on, and then another good song came on.

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So I ended up just singing for the last hour. My throats a bit

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sore. Guess that was the only downside, but I sang for the

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last hour, and with my eyes closed, with the microphone, it

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was, I mean, it's not like I didn't have it live. So it's not

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like the microphone amplified the sound, but just the feeling

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of having the microphone and singing with my eyes closed was

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really profound. I don't know, maybe I had my first like

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Whitney Houston moment. Hey, Whitney Houston. I didn't sing

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any Whitney Houston songs, but my favorite song of all time, I

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have to share. You might not know it, especially if you are a

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Gen Z or even a millennial, unless your parents listen to

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70s music. It's a song from the 70s by John Denver. It's called

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Annie's song, and it's, I'm I was singing it with my it came

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on, and I get so excited when it comes on. There's something

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about the it actually was in the soundtrack for the movie My Best

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Friend's Wedding. And whenever I hear this song, I get so

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excited. And it starts out saying, you, yeah, I'm not going

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to sing, but it starts out saying, you fill up my senses

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like a night in the forest, like the mountains in springtime,

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like a walk in the rain. And of course, it's about love, like

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every other song, but I often have the experience of this is

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actually perfect for this episode. I have the experience

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now when I hear love songs, I really hear them for myself. I

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don't I no longer think of somebody else. It's like for me,

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about me and I just I'm so connected to my senses. So I I

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think that's why I've always loved that song, because I can

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feel the frequency of it. Talks about nature and smelling and

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and experiencing and feeling. And I'm such a sensory, sensual

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person, so and I also have a lot of Taurus in my astrology. So

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anyways, go listen to it if you don't know the song, Annie.

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Annie's song, yeah, it just makes me so happy. So I'm still

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in Nairobi, living my best life over here, I'm going to share

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with you my initiations that have happened twice in the last

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two weeks, because, of course, just so you have the contrasting

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experience that it's not always roses and sunshine. When we

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follow our hearts and follow our truths, we still have to

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experience hard things. I had the stomach flu. It was a

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bacterial infection twice in the last two weeks, like really bad,

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which apparently is really a nature's way of initiating you

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into a new place, your body's way of adjusting to new

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bacterias to new environments. And so I'm not surprised. I

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mean, I definitely was surprised. The second time it

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happened, I was like, seriously, I just had this 10 days ago. So

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it was this week, Monday and Tuesday, I was out for the

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count, super sick. And you know, day one, I was in the just, oh

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my god. Like, why is this happening? And like, I want to

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die just, you know, moments of just letting myself really feel

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how I was feeling and express that part, but also

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simultaneously knowing, okay, everything I experience is

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always for something, nothing that happens unexpectedly,

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doesn't serve a purpose. It's all a part of something, right?

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When you think of nature, it's like there's no creature,

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there's no insect, there's nothing on planet earth that

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isn't a part of this ecosystem. We might think like damn

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mosquitoes kill them, or like bees are better, not. Bees, but

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wasps are bad, or, you know, spiders are scary, but they all

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serve a purpose in the ecosystem. Just like every organ

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in the human body serves a purpose. Everything, it's a part

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of a system. Everything serves a purpose. So when I got sick,

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even though I had that, you know, few moments of just

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feeling like, Oh, why is this happening again? And no, I don't

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want it to happen and I want to die. I feel so bad. I also knew,

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simultaneously, always holding the higher perspective of, okay,

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this is for something. There's a reason I'm getting sick twice.

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And it was really fascinating because day three and I did go

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on antibiotics. I'm not a huge fan of antibiotics unless

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they're really, really needed. But I just was like, Okay, I

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just want to get this bacteria out of my body, and so I'm on

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antibiotics and with my probiotics waiting in the wing

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when I'm finished my antibiotics. But I I had such an

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interesting experience the third day, when I was not I was still

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a little bit sick, but not super sick. I was kind of groggy and

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tired still, and still had, you know, some symptoms. I had so

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much creativity come through like I had not experienced that

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since I've been here, I've kind of just been settling in getting

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things organized, and, you know, I haven't really felt creative.

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I haven't really felt connected to any part of my work. And all

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of a sudden, so much creativity came through, so much

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inspiration came through, so much magic came through. I

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started having ideas of new projects that are super

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inspiring and exciting. One of them affects the podcast in a

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good way. And I have, I mean, obviously everything in a good

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way, but I just had all these amazing ideas come through, and

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this new program come through that I'll tell you about at the

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end of today, but it is, I'll just tell you right now. It's

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called starting over, and it's a course that I've that I've

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created, that I'm doing live with an intimate group of women,

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or September, November. I don't know what. It's hard to know

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what day it is, because time is going by so fast, November, 7 to

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ninth. So it's a Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and it's gonna

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be two and a half hours each morning. And if you, if you sign

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up for it now, it's called starting over. So it's for

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anyone going through massive change, like heartbreak,

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breakup, divorce, move to another country. Just move,

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change jobs, whatever, start, quit your work and started a

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business. Any, anyone going through massive change, it's

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called starting over. So that program came through, and it's

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$97 but you get to come for 50% off if you sign up before

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November 5. So, and I'll just tell you right now the discount

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code is expand, E, x, P, A, n, d, all capital letters, expand,

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and I'll link it below the episode. So, but, and I'll

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mention it more clearly at the end, but I'm just seeding it

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now, because that was one of the things that came through. I had

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decided in August I was doing a program called starting over in

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the fall. I was really, really clear that it was coming, that I

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was going to do it, but I hadn't had anything come through. And

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then it all started coming through. And then I had just so

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much inspiration. And then I was sitting in my bliss chair. I

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have this new hanging chair that sits in my front yard, and it's

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one of those egg chairs that hangs on a its own stand, Eve,

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if you're listening, best thing ever. Eve's one of the heroin

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sisters, and she starts. She got a couple hanging chairs, and it

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changed her life. And when I was in at Ola pangi farm, I sat in

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this one hanging chair and wrote like half of the book in it, and

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I spent so much time in this hanging chair that hung from a

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huge, beautiful fig tree. So there's something about hanging

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chairs that just relaxes you so much. It's like being in the

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womb. So anyways, I was sitting in my my hanging chair, but we

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call it the bliss chair. My friend Amber has one too, the

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bliss chair, and I just dawned on me, wait, all this creativity

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is flowing through. I hadn't been feeling creative. I'd been

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meditating. I've been singing and writing and dancing and

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doing all my usual practices and connecting and meeting people

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and just being in this beautiful energy being here. But hadn't

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been feeling creative, and I was like, Oh, my body needed to

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purge two times, you know, for two days at a time, and needed

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to let go of energy and move old stagnant energy that was

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blocking the energy flow so that this new creative flow could

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come through. So just when you think whatever's happening in

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your life right now, like it feeling like it's falling apart

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just when you think it's not meant for you. It shouldn't be

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this way that you should be still married. You should be

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still in that job that you just lost. You should be your

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whatever your circumstances are.

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So you, if you believe it should be different, that is the root

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of your suffering. For one, we'll, we'll dig into that. But

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there is a reason for everything. Just like in the

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ecosystem of nature, there is a reason for everything we

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experience. There's no thing, no event, no person leaving, no

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loss, no rupture, no tragedy, no trauma, no no experience that

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you have in your life that isn't meant to happen because it

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happened. That's how I know this is true because it happened.

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There's a saying. You've probably heard me say it before.

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It's not mine. I don't know who's saying it is, but when you

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argue with reality, you lose 100% of the time. And I believe

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the majority of our suffering doesn't come from the thing

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itself, but it comes from the dramatization of the thing. It

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comes from the stories we tell ourselves about the thing that

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happened. It comes from us taking the story and then

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telling 10 of our friends and then complaining about it and

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then and then being arguing with it, and then believing that it

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should be different than it is. This is the root of all

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suffering, I had the stomach flu, I had diarrhea, and I was

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vomiting over and over again, you know, twice in two weeks.

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And I also happened to me early September. So clearly, there's

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lots that needed to go, and I don't have parasites. I got

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tested for everything, but like these things happened. Yes,

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there was a physical component, but there's always a spiritual

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component and an emotional component. And the both the

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spiritual and the emotional component are shit needed to

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clear out, literally and figuratively, for new

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inspiration to come through, for me to land where I am, for me to

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really fully experience this new place that I'm in, here in

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Kenya. So the first thing that I want you to land and anchor into

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When Everything Feels like it's falling apart is actually

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falling together. It's not falling apart, it's falling

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together. Yes, external circumstances are out of our

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control. That is true. That will always be true only till the end

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of time. Your external circumstances are not in your

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control, although we've been sold a very different story.

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Just get the husband, just get the job with the corner office,

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just climb to the top of the ladder. Just get the house and

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own it, and then nothing can take it away. Damn. La fires

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come burn all those houses down, right? Just get, just get the

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the job that's secure instead of starting your own business. Oh,

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then covid happens. Everyone's jobs, like companies go to

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business. Everyone loses their jobs. All it's it's a lie, or

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just marry the love of life. How many people married the love of

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their life and then they changed? Or, or she changed, he

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changed, or she and she, he and he, whoever, whatever the deal

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is, someone changed, or life changed you, or what you went

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through changed you, or it just didn't work out as it did when

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you were younger, like life is completely like. The only thing

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I can guarantee you is knife is not going to go according to how

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you think it should. It's not going to go according to plan

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and how you think it should, and your plan isn't even your own.

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That's a sad thing. All these women just longing to get

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married, fighting to have find their husband, find that. Get

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the, get the all these these things in the script, and

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they're pining away and they're aching and they're beating

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themselves up because they don't have it. That's not even your

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desire. That is somebody else's story, a story that has been

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sold to you from so many different places that your brain

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has been programmed to believe is your story and your desire.

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So here you are at this really potent time. And you know

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everything I share on this episode is with such tenderness

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and love because loss, change, big transitions, divorce,

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breakup. I mean, these are can be really scary, really painful,

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really heartbreaking times, and so nothing I say is to negate

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your feelings. Everything is always an honor and reverence to

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your feelings. But what I'm highlighting here is the part of

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you that takes the story of what happened and and makes it this

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dramatic event that is so much more painful than it would have

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been before, because you think it should be different. So I

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think that's such an important place to start. Is, what are you

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believing about this situation? Yeah, and you might not be

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believing it should be different. You might just be in

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the pain, you know, I think about breakups that I've been

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through, where I was so clear that it was not for me anymore,

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but it didn't make it any easier. It was, like, still

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really freaking hard to let go of a person you deeply care

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about. So, you know, it doesn't mean you'll feel that way, but,

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but, but check yourself right now. Am I arguing with reality?

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Do I think should things should be different than they are?

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Because if things have fallen apart, if you have lost your

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job, if you have something has happened unexpectedly and side

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swiped. You just know. And I want to say, there's these

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sayings. So some people say, Oh, my God, these things are

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happening to me and that, I mean, that's a story that's

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going to keep you stuck in victim mentality, which means

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the world is against you. Some bad things are happening to you.

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My brother used to say this. He used to be like, I'm just

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unlucky. Just an unlucky guy. And I'm like, That's a great

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story. Like, how's that working for you? Because if you believe

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it to be true, it's going to be true, your brain will look for

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evidence it's going to be true. That's like, scientifically

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proven. If you believe something to be true, it's going to be

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true. So check yourself first. What am i Believing about this

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situation. Am I believing that this situation is happening to

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me? Like, oh my god, I can't believe this happened to me.

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What the hell I watched one of my best friends, who I love so

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dearly, lose her house in the LA fires. I'm gonna cry sharing

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this story, but she blew my fucking mind, because I talked

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to her a few days after it happened, and she was deeply

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connected to her grief and her sadness of the loss and all all

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the years she worked to make that happen as a single woman,

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to to to build her or to they shouldn't build it, but buy a

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new home, renovate a new home, create a beautiful space for her

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and her dogs. And she did it on her own as an independent woman,

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and she was so proud of it. She only had it for a couple of

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years, and she loved this home so much. It was so beautiful.

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And when the fires happened, she was one of the one of

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the people who tragically lost their home. Now she wasn't not

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feeling her grief. She was deeply feeling her grief, but

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simultaneously she was holding the perspective of, Oh, I was

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meant to go through this experience, and it will make so

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much more sense later, not in arguing with reality at all. And

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she was creating, like fundraisers. She was creating

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clothing drives for people who'd lost their houses, gathering

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clothes from people who didn't lose their houses. She was so

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active was like getting a house where a bunch of them could live

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like so beautiful to watch. I mean, a lot of people this

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happens in tragedy, where it creates like community more

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where people rise more people become more generous, more

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loving, more supportive and bond over this experience. So there's

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one of the gifts in it, right? Everything has tremendous gifts

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in it that we did not choose our souls. Did not choose to come to

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planet earth for an easeful ride like you would have chose. I

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don't know Lumeria is that a planet like something nicer. I

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don't know much about other planets, but you would have

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chosen another place if you wanted an easy ride, like we

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came to planet earth to evolve. We came to planet earth to

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change how things are done. Here we came to planet earth to to

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wake up and to experience like, life's full range, right?

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Because if life was just like, remember that movie

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Pleasantville, I was just like, pleasant all the time.

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Everyone's pleasant, you would feel dead inside. Like, how

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boring life has these crazy, catalytic moments, and everyone

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goes through different versions. You know, there's so many. We

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all experience tragedy in our life that's that's inevitable.

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You can't not one day you will experience something drastic

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that happens. That's just part of the human experience.

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Obviously, nowadays we have access to the with access to the

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world's news, we know of all the tragedies happening every day

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everywhere. So it's kind of like hard to escape, but that's part

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of the experience. So it was so beautiful to witness this friend

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of mine in her in her sadness and grief, and be able to hold

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her and love her through that, but also witness her in her

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devotion to her spiritual beliefs, knowing nothing we

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don't walk through any passageway without it being part

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of an initiation of our lives, an initiation of who we're

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becoming, an initiation of the next version of ourselves. So we

Kate Harlow: 00:19:57

can become more expressed. So. So we can create more, so we can

Kate Harlow: 00:20:01

make a bigger impact, so we can love more, so we can experience

Kate Harlow: 00:20:05

more here on planet Earth. So I don't agree with this, saying it

Kate Harlow: 00:20:09

happened for you, because that feels, you know, I worked, I've

Kate Harlow: 00:20:12

worked, actually, with many widows over the years, and many

Kate Harlow: 00:20:16

women who've lost their spouses. And, you know, saying to someone

Kate Harlow: 00:20:21

who's lost a spouse or a child or a loved one that happened for

Kate Harlow: 00:20:26

you seems kind of insensitive and also like that. That's what

Kate Harlow: 00:20:32

made that term start to not make sense to me. So I used to

Kate Harlow: 00:20:36

believe it, but what I actually believe is that thing happened,

Kate Harlow: 00:20:41

period. It's neutral. It happened. Yes, it was supposed

Kate Harlow: 00:20:44

to happen, because that soul would not have left Planet Earth

Kate Harlow: 00:20:47

if it wasn't their time. I've watched a lot of near death

Kate Harlow: 00:20:49

experiences to know that if people it's not their time,

Kate Harlow: 00:20:52

they'll go the other side and come back like that soul, no

Kate Harlow: 00:20:55

matter how old they were, no matter what the story is, was

Kate Harlow: 00:20:58

meant to leave the planet. And yet every single person argues

Kate Harlow: 00:21:03

with reality when people die partly, you know, I think in the

Kate Harlow: 00:21:07

Western world, we're so desensitized from death, so

Kate Harlow: 00:21:10

disconnected from death, and and we just avoid, avoid, avoid,

Kate Harlow: 00:21:14

avoid, avoid, and then it side swipes us. And I think that's

Kate Harlow: 00:21:17

part of why people have such denial around it. Because we've

Kate Harlow: 00:21:20

been break, we've been, like, kind of delusioned about it, I

Kate Harlow: 00:21:24

think of in Africa and in all these other countries in the

Kate Harlow: 00:21:28

world, death is a sacred thing, and people are so aware of it

Kate Harlow: 00:21:32

that it's a part of life. When I talk to my Kenyan friends, are

Kate Harlow: 00:21:34

like, they're like, Yeah, death is just normal, like, and it's

Kate Harlow: 00:21:38

such a sacred thing, and they have all their sacred rituals

Kate Harlow: 00:21:40

around it. And it's, it's more, I don't know, like up, they're

Kate Harlow: 00:21:46

more upfront about it. It's, it's part of life, whereas we're

Kate Harlow: 00:21:50

in denial in the western world often. So that's one of the

Kate Harlow: 00:21:53

things that absolutely feels like your life is falling apart.

Kate Harlow: 00:21:58

And understandably, because grief is so insurmountable, so

Kate Harlow: 00:22:01

overwhelming, and if you don't have a relationship to your

Kate Harlow: 00:22:05

feelings, and you have never been modeled or taught how to

Kate Harlow: 00:22:10

love yourself through hard times, how to fully get to the

Kate Harlow: 00:22:13

bottom of your feelings like a three year old child, if you

Kate Harlow: 00:22:17

don't know how to do that, and you've been compartmentalizing

Kate Harlow: 00:22:21

and numbing and distracting and avoiding for a long time. Of

Kate Harlow: 00:22:26

course, you're going to feel like it's a tsunami. I think

Kate Harlow: 00:22:28

it's the first, you know, the beginning, it feels like a

Kate Harlow: 00:22:30

tsunami either way. But it's that's a really big one. Loss is

Kate Harlow: 00:22:34

a, I'd say the biggest of of the life feeling like it's falling

Kate Harlow: 00:22:38

apart. And yet, even still, the thing happened, and there is an

Kate Harlow: 00:22:45

opportunity, not necessarily, if you're in the first you know,

Kate Harlow: 00:22:49

beginning phase of it, just let yourself hold yourself, take

Kate Harlow: 00:22:53

time off work, get like rest, surround yourself with loved

Kate Harlow: 00:22:56

ones, like be, let yourself be, and just care for yourself and

Kate Harlow: 00:23:03

that there comes a time when you feel ready to let this thing

Kate Harlow: 00:23:09

that happened in your life, that happened it did. You can't argue

Kate Harlow: 00:23:13

with that. This rupture be the thing that cracks you open so

Kate Harlow: 00:23:19

that you rebuild, reinvent, reawaken, unlock all of who you

Kate Harlow: 00:23:25

are, or the next version of yourself. You create a life

Kate Harlow: 00:23:29

that's more meaningful, right? What does death teach us or loss

Kate Harlow: 00:23:33

teach us? It teaches us how much life fucking matters. It teaches

Kate Harlow: 00:23:37

us how precious life is. It teaches us how deeply we love

Kate Harlow: 00:23:42

and how much we care, and how often most people are completely

Kate Harlow: 00:23:47

disconnected from the depth of love in their hearts. So let it,

Kate Harlow: 00:23:52

let this thing that that this catalyst, let you love bigger in

Kate Harlow: 00:23:56

your life, let you connect more, let you open your heart more and

Kate Harlow: 00:24:01

live from a deeper, more present, more meaningful place

Kate Harlow: 00:24:05

within yourself. That's the purpose of life falling apart is

Kate Harlow: 00:24:10

these catalytic moments happen to create change, because

Kate Harlow: 00:24:13

without them, if you are just in autopilot, if you are just doing

Kate Harlow: 00:24:18

the same thing every day, and you have your routines, and you

Kate Harlow: 00:24:22

have your places you go, and your people you see, and your

Kate Harlow: 00:24:25

things you do, your soul will die. Your soul needs newness. In

Kate Harlow: 00:24:31

order to in order to feel something, in order to feel

Kate Harlow: 00:24:35

alive, you need to experience new things, new places, new

Kate Harlow: 00:24:39

people. You need to go new you go on new adventures. You we do

Kate Harlow: 00:24:44

not meet our fullest selves without having new experiences.

Kate Harlow: 00:24:48

So sometimes life comes in not on purpose, not to punish us or

Kate Harlow: 00:24:53

hurt us or or teach us something. And well, it's always

Kate Harlow: 00:24:57

teaching us things, but it comes in with, sometimes with a. Four

Kate Harlow: 00:25:00

by four, or, you know, a

Kate Harlow: 00:25:03

train or whatever, and smashes us. And then we and it, we

Kate Harlow: 00:25:08

awaken to a whole new level. So some people go through big life

Kate Harlow: 00:25:12

changing events, like losing a job, and then they just, they

Kate Harlow: 00:25:16

wallow, right? And they wallow in that dramatic story. They

Kate Harlow: 00:25:20

believe the beliefs that aren't true. Oh, like, let's say, or

Kate Harlow: 00:25:23

let's say, you know your husband cheated on you. It's like some

Kate Harlow: 00:25:26

women will stay in that forever. They will be in agony. They will

Kate Harlow: 00:25:30

tell the story that men can't be trusted. They'll beat the shit

Kate Harlow: 00:25:33

out of themselves. They'll tell themselves that they they're not

Kate Harlow: 00:25:37

worthy of love, or they don't trust men, so they never want to

Kate Harlow: 00:25:40

be in a relationship again, and they'll let that thing stop them

Kate Harlow: 00:25:43

from ever letting love in again. And the rest of their lives,

Kate Harlow: 00:25:46

they'll hold it as ammunition against other people and against

Kate Harlow: 00:25:50

relationships. But they're what they're actually doing is

Kate Harlow: 00:25:53

closing their hearts out of protection, which is only

Kate Harlow: 00:25:56

hurting themselves. So that's what we do, or a loss of a job,

Kate Harlow: 00:26:00

and it rocks you. And then all of a sudden you feel really

Kate Harlow: 00:26:03

insecure, and then all of a sudden you feel like you're not

Kate Harlow: 00:26:06

good enough, and how are you going to get another job? And if

Kate Harlow: 00:26:09

this, this company doesn't want you who will? And you know, we

Kate Harlow: 00:26:12

use these things that happen, these catalytic change moments,

Kate Harlow: 00:26:17

and we make them mean something about ourselves. And of course,

Kate Harlow: 00:26:20

that's your saboteur making it mean something about you if you

Kate Harlow: 00:26:23

haven't done the saboteur mini course, go do it, find out more

Kate Harlow: 00:26:26

about your saboteur, but also enjoy join us in the starting

Kate Harlow: 00:26:30

over the seventh to ninth of November. But like this is your

Kate Harlow: 00:26:36

saboteur trying to take this experience and keep you small,

Kate Harlow: 00:26:42

because your saboteur was hired a long time ago to keep you

Kate Harlow: 00:26:46

small, right? You were too expressed, too big, too

Kate Harlow: 00:26:48

emotional, too too free, too vulnerable, too real, too

Kate Harlow: 00:26:53

playful, too imaginative, too creative, too wild, and so your

Kate Harlow: 00:26:58

saboteur was hired by your parents and your teachers and

Kate Harlow: 00:27:01

all the adults in your life to keep you small. So she thinks

Kate Harlow: 00:27:05

that's still her job, and she's still trying to keep you small.

Kate Harlow: 00:27:08

But just know all of those beliefs, all of those stories,

Kate Harlow: 00:27:10

are not true, and as long as you're believing them to be

Kate Harlow: 00:27:14

true, you're going to stay small when this is a time when

Kate Harlow: 00:27:18

everything's falling apart, it's actually falling together. Life

Kate Harlow: 00:27:21

brings these events, these circumstances, these situations,

Kate Harlow: 00:27:24

to rock us and change things up, so that we can be reborn, so we

Kate Harlow: 00:27:30

can awaken, so we can expand, so we can fuck the rules and make

Kate Harlow: 00:27:34

our own so we can we can find new parts of ourselves. You

Kate Harlow: 00:27:38

cannot do that if you were doing the same thing every day and

Kate Harlow: 00:27:41

trying to stay safe, right? I can't believe how many people I

Kate Harlow: 00:27:45

talked to that are like, Yeah, but I just want to do what's

Kate Harlow: 00:27:47

comfortable and like, what comforts me in the comfort zone,

Kate Harlow: 00:27:49

that word comfort, like that is actually the fucking torture

Kate Harlow: 00:27:52

zone. The Comfort Zone isn't comfortable. Comfortable might

Kate Harlow: 00:27:56

be cozy for, you know, a night when you're like, watching

Kate Harlow: 00:27:59

movies in the rain under your blankie in your closet. Like it

Kate Harlow: 00:28:03

might be comfortable for five minutes, but like if you're

Kate Harlow: 00:28:05

staying small because it feels safe, that is not safety. That

Kate Harlow: 00:28:11

is misery, that is prison, that is keeping yourself from being

Kate Harlow: 00:28:15

who you are, keeping yourself from living the life that the

Kate Harlow: 00:28:18

universe life has for you, right? Life has this beautiful

Kate Harlow: 00:28:23

journey, adventure in store for you that's perfectly a match to

Kate Harlow: 00:28:27

your soul. And yet, if you're hiding in your closet or hiding

Kate Harlow: 00:28:31

in your comfort zone, you're going to miss this life that's

Kate Harlow: 00:28:34

the perfect match to your soul, and I don't want that for you.

Kate Harlow: 00:28:39

So check yourself, check your stories, check what you're

Kate Harlow: 00:28:43

believing about what's happening right now. Let yourself feel

Kate Harlow: 00:28:47

your grief. Let yourself feel your pain, your sadness, your

Kate Harlow: 00:28:51

rage, your frustration. If you don't know how I talk about it

Kate Harlow: 00:28:54

on so many episodes, but this is the work I do with women,

Kate Harlow: 00:28:57

teaching them to how to be in deep relationship with

Kate Harlow: 00:29:00

themselves, so that you can navigate whatever life brings.

Kate Harlow: 00:29:04

Send me a DM, a PM, a GM, whatever, and we can explore

Kate Harlow: 00:29:10

possibilities of going on a journey together, where you can

Kate Harlow: 00:29:13

learn how to transform your relationship with yourself, but

Kate Harlow: 00:29:17

learn to learn to be in relationship with your feelings,

Kate Harlow: 00:29:21

without being in relationship with your saboteur, and all

Kate Harlow: 00:29:23

those stories and the dramatization of your feelings.

Kate Harlow: 00:29:27

So that's the first thing I have to say. It's like your

Kate Harlow: 00:29:30

perspective matters so much. Everything's not falling apart,

Kate Harlow: 00:29:32

it's actually coming together into the next level of your

Kate Harlow: 00:29:36

life, the next level of this human experience and soul

Kate Harlow: 00:29:40

experience that you're meant to experience, and often Big

Kate Harlow: 00:29:44

changes are an awakening for people. Whether you've been

Kate Harlow: 00:29:48

awake for a long time and you've been living your life freely

Kate Harlow: 00:29:50

from your heart and soul, or you're brand new and you've

Kate Harlow: 00:29:54

never done anything for yourself and you've been just following

Kate Harlow: 00:29:57

the scripted path, anything in between is. Still an awakening.

Kate Harlow: 00:30:01

It's like the next level awakening, or it's your first

Kate Harlow: 00:30:04

awakening, but it's here to wake you up to so much more, because

Kate Harlow: 00:30:08

we've been sold a whole bunch of lies that life is supposed to be

Kate Harlow: 00:30:11

scary and hard and stressful and busy and and and then we and

Kate Harlow: 00:30:15

then we die, like, what? What's the fucking point? Why are we

Kate Harlow: 00:30:18

all here? If we're just going to be stressed out, busy, scared,

Kate Harlow: 00:30:23

anxious, frustrated, overwhelmed, and then we die.

Kate Harlow: 00:30:27

That is not the point of being here on planet Earth. I promise

Kate Harlow: 00:30:31

you, your soul has a deeper purpose. By the way, later in

Kate Harlow: 00:30:34

November, after the starting over weekend, there will be a

Kate Harlow: 00:30:37

little purpose series. So I'm excited about that. Okay, so

Kate Harlow: 00:30:43

number two, I guess that was number one, is check yourself

Kate Harlow: 00:30:48

your beliefs in the stories that you're believing,

Kate Harlow: 00:30:52

is build your community. Community is everything when you

Kate Harlow: 00:30:57

feel alone, but don't surround yourself with those typical, you

Kate Harlow: 00:31:01

know, saboteur besties that are reinforcing your stories. Like,

Kate Harlow: 00:31:06

oh my god, I can't believe he cheated. Men are all assholes.

Kate Harlow: 00:31:09

You're right. Never date again. Like, if you're surrounding

Kate Harlow: 00:31:12

yourself with people like that, women like that, you are going

Kate Harlow: 00:31:17

to stay stuck right, surround yourself with people who inspire

Kate Harlow: 00:31:20

you and expand you. Look go spend time in places like yoga

Kate Harlow: 00:31:26

studios, breath work, sambal healings, drum circles, I don't

Kate Harlow: 00:31:33

know, like Tantra workshops, whatever. Go do things that

Kate Harlow: 00:31:36

expand you, and you will meet other people who also want to be

Kate Harlow: 00:31:41

expanded. You'll meet women at the weekend of starting over

Kate Harlow: 00:31:45

too. So join me there and you'll you'll meet some amazing women

Kate Harlow: 00:31:48

who take responsibility for their path, but you want to

Kate Harlow: 00:31:51

surround yourself with people who take responsibility for

Kate Harlow: 00:31:54

their feelings, who are not victims of their circumstance,

Kate Harlow: 00:31:57

who have a relationship to all of their feelings and who also

Kate Harlow: 00:32:02

live an expanded life, who inspire you, who can help you

Kate Harlow: 00:32:08

feel like more is possible from this situation instead of less.

Kate Harlow: 00:32:12

That's who you want to surround yourself with, not with people

Kate Harlow: 00:32:15

who are wallowing and in victim mentality and in arguing with

Kate Harlow: 00:32:19

reality and struggling on the struggle bus, and, you know,

Kate Harlow: 00:32:24

stuck in a FOUP or who are reinforcing your stories and

Kate Harlow: 00:32:28

your beliefs that you've been believing, that's only going to

Kate Harlow: 00:32:31

keep you stuck. So, so, so important that you surround

Kate Harlow: 00:32:35

yourself with the right community, with the right women,

Kate Harlow: 00:32:38

and as women, we need community. It's essential. You know,

Kate Harlow: 00:32:42

actually, this is a beautiful story. I one of my favorite

Kate Harlow: 00:32:45

things about being here is, like, community is it's

Kate Harlow: 00:32:48

everywhere, everywhere. But people are so open here. We have

Kate Harlow: 00:32:52

made so many friends, mostly at dojo, the gym that I told you

Kate Harlow: 00:32:56

about, that I'm obsessed with. We've made so many friends

Kate Harlow: 00:33:00

there, and I've gone for coffees. And we, my friend

Kate Harlow: 00:33:04

Amber, hosted a women's circle the other night. Unfortunately,

Kate Harlow: 00:33:07

I was hugging the toilet so I couldn't attend. I was supposed

Kate Harlow: 00:33:10

to go too. But we, we've made, like, 1520, from maybe not 20,

Kate Harlow: 00:33:14

but like 15, no, maybe 20. And we made a lot of friends, like,

Kate Harlow: 00:33:17

I make a new friend almost every day. Today. Okay? Couple days

Kate Harlow: 00:33:20

ago, I was at a coffee shop, and actually, this is not the story

Kate Harlow: 00:33:25

I was gonna tell, but this woman's so beautiful, like,

Kate Harlow: 00:33:27

radiant, glowing, one of the most beautiful women I've ever

Kate Harlow: 00:33:30

seen. And I was like, how she was a server at the coffee shop.

Kate Harlow: 00:33:34

And I said, I have to tell you, you are so beautiful, like you

Kate Harlow: 00:33:37

take my breath away. And she was like, what? Thank you. And then

Kate Harlow: 00:33:42

she came back two minutes later and she said, I have to tell

Kate Harlow: 00:33:44

you, Kate, actually, I don't think she knew my name at that

Kate Harlow: 00:33:47

time. She said, I have been sent messages my whole life that

Kate Harlow: 00:33:53

women with really, really dark skin, Kenyan women are not

Kate Harlow: 00:33:56

beautiful, and the women the ugly, she said, and the Kenyan

Kate Harlow: 00:34:00

women with brown skin, like more lighter skin, are the ones who

Kate Harlow: 00:34:03

are beautiful. That was the message she got growing up. And

Kate Harlow: 00:34:06

I was heartbroken hearing this. And I was like, Who the fuck

Kate Harlow: 00:34:09

told you that? And and then we, we laughed, and she said, I, she

Kate Harlow: 00:34:15

said, I have to tell you, one year ago, I went deep into

Kate Harlow: 00:34:19

myself. And I'm paraphrasing here. I can't remember the exact

Kate Harlow: 00:34:21

words, but it was like, so aligned. Like, so aligned with

Kate Harlow: 00:34:23

everything she said. I went deep into myself, and I went inward,

Kate Harlow: 00:34:26

and I learned how to love myself, and now I feel more

Kate Harlow: 00:34:29

beautiful than ever, and now I look more beautiful than ever,

Kate Harlow: 00:34:32

and I'm glowing. And now nobody, nothing, nobody could say, could

Kate Harlow: 00:34:35

hurt me, because I actually love myself and see my own beauty,

Kate Harlow: 00:34:40

and and I was like, Oh my God. I looked at her, and was like,

Kate Harlow: 00:34:43

this is literally what I teach other women how to feel and how

Kate Harlow: 00:34:48

to embody. And I said, Here's my podcast. And, and then I went in

Kate Harlow: 00:34:52

again today, and she came up to me. I was in. I had a hat and

Kate Harlow: 00:34:56

raincoat on so she didn't recognize me. And then she's

Kate Harlow: 00:34:58

looking and looking, and she comes. Over, and she's like, it

Kate Harlow: 00:35:01

is you. And I was like, Yes, me. She said, I've been listening to

Kate Harlow: 00:35:04

the podcast. And she said, wow, everything you say is what I

Kate Harlow: 00:35:08

believe. Like this is it I thank you so much. I'm so excited to

Kate Harlow: 00:35:10

listen to more episodes. So it was so beautiful. Shout out to

Kate Harlow: 00:35:13

you, Beatty, if you're listening. It was so beautiful,

Kate Harlow: 00:35:17

such a beautiful exchange. But these are the kinds of women I'm

Kate Harlow: 00:35:19

meeting because I am embodying the energy right of radical

Kate Harlow: 00:35:25

ownership over my feelings, taking responsibility for

Kate Harlow: 00:35:28

myself, loving myself, living for my truth, feeling my

Kate Harlow: 00:35:31

feelings, all of those things. And then what happens? I attract

Kate Harlow: 00:35:35

other women that are the same. I have made so many Canyon friends

Kate Harlow: 00:35:38

who are empowered, unscripted, doing really cool things,

Kate Harlow: 00:35:42

amazing, creatives, like it's mind blowing. So community is

Kate Harlow: 00:35:47

everything. It's funny. That wasn't the story I was going to

Kate Harlow: 00:35:50

share. The other story I was going to share of one of my new

Kate Harlow: 00:35:53

Kenyan friends. She when I was sick, she came over the night of

Kate Harlow: 00:35:56

the women's circle that I couldn't attend. She came over

Kate Harlow: 00:35:59

to my place with a box of fruit, walks right into my cottage.

Kate Harlow: 00:36:03

She'd never been here, walks right in, goes straight to the

Kate Harlow: 00:36:05

sink, brings this, like fruit, cleaning stuff, cleans it, and

Kate Harlow: 00:36:09

it's a giant box of fruit. She brought me a giant watermelon, a

Kate Harlow: 00:36:12

giant papaya, you know, grapes, apples, you name it, like whole

Kate Harlow: 00:36:17

thing. And she washed my fruit for 10 minutes and explained how

Kate Harlow: 00:36:20

important is to wash the fruit here. And she's like, when

Kate Harlow: 00:36:23

you're sick, you have to eat fruit. You need to replenish

Kate Harlow: 00:36:26

with fruit. And I was like, Okay, thank you. I'm crying. I'm

Kate Harlow: 00:36:28

like, my god, this is so generous. And she's looking down

Kate Harlow: 00:36:32

at my at my recycling, and she's like, why do you why are you

Kate Harlow: 00:36:36

eating boxed soup? It was like, miso soup in box, like it was a

Kate Harlow: 00:36:40

powder, but it came in a box, and I was like, I don't know my

Kate Harlow: 00:36:44

kitchen smell. And she's like, You got to cook from scratch.

Kate Harlow: 00:36:46

You got to cook everything from scratch. You got to cook. And

Kate Harlow: 00:36:49

then two days later, she had me and my friend over for lunch. It

Kate Harlow: 00:36:51

was so sweet. So just community is everything, and the more you

Kate Harlow: 00:36:56

walk through, I know in you know, if you're in the Western

Kate Harlow: 00:36:59

world, people are busy, people are disconnected, so sometimes

Kate Harlow: 00:37:02

it feels like they're not as as as engaging. Like, I've

Kate Harlow: 00:37:05

definitely had a lot of conversations with heroines that

Kate Harlow: 00:37:08

I'm working with, heroin sisters, clients that I'm

Kate Harlow: 00:37:11

working with who are who are like, Oh, I wish I had a gym

Kate Harlow: 00:37:14

like that where I could make friends and connect. Everyone in

Kate Harlow: 00:37:18

my yoga studio doesn't even say hi. They don't even look at each

Kate Harlow: 00:37:20

other. You see the same people, and they just kind of avoid each

Kate Harlow: 00:37:23

other. And I said, Be the one who walks into the yoga studio

Kate Harlow: 00:37:27

with her heart open, and connect yourself and see what happens.

Kate Harlow: 00:37:31

It was like when I lived in Vancouver. I went to bar every

Kate Harlow: 00:37:34

day, and I had so many friends in my bar class. I was friends

Kate Harlow: 00:37:37

with all of the teachers. I was friends with all of the regulars

Kate Harlow: 00:37:40

because I had my heart open and I was always connecting with

Kate Harlow: 00:37:43

everyone. So be the change in the world you wish to see as

Kate Harlow: 00:37:47

beautiful Gandhi said to us many moons ago, be the change in the

Kate Harlow: 00:37:52

world you wish to see. But for women, especially when we're

Kate Harlow: 00:37:56

going through hard times, being around other humans who've been

Kate Harlow: 00:38:00

through what you've been through, or who know how to hold

Kate Harlow: 00:38:03

space and how to just be with your feelings, who know how to

Kate Harlow: 00:38:07

care and love you through it, who know how to come bring fruit

Kate Harlow: 00:38:11

to your house without you asking like that is who you want to

Kate Harlow: 00:38:15

surround yourself with. Let yourself be supported. Women are

Kate Harlow: 00:38:19

so bad at receiving. I've worked with a lot of I've worked with

Kate Harlow: 00:38:23

1000s of women. At this point, it's been almost 20 years, and

Kate Harlow: 00:38:27

women are bad at receiving. So let yourself learn how to

Kate Harlow: 00:38:31

receive, because that's an act of self love that you can give

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to yourself, as if someone's offering to support you or you

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need support. Reach out, Ask, and you can even instruct your

Kate Harlow: 00:38:41

friends, hey, I need to share, but please don't give me advice.

Kate Harlow: 00:38:45

Like, I just want to get this off my chest. I just need to

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feel supported. But I really, really don't need advice,

Kate Harlow: 00:38:52

because that way you don't get stuck in them telling you, like,

Kate Harlow: 00:38:55

Oh, he's an asshole. You shouldn't whatever. The thing

Kate Harlow: 00:38:58

is, the bad advice that you're getting, and it allows you to

Kate Harlow: 00:39:01

really just feel because if people just listen to you vent,

Kate Harlow: 00:39:05

and then they try and go into the story with you, it keeps you

Kate Harlow: 00:39:08

stuck in the story. So sometimes we have to train the people in

Kate Harlow: 00:39:12

our lives how to hold space, how to support us in the way we need

Kate Harlow: 00:39:15

to be supported. But just know that you know when you feel like

Kate Harlow: 00:39:18

things are falling apart. Part of the challenge is women feel

Kate Harlow: 00:39:22

so alone. I mean, I don't feel alone here, but I know I did

Kate Harlow: 00:39:25

when I was in Vancouver, like in the Western world, it's like,

Kate Harlow: 00:39:29

we're all, like, isolated. You know, everyone's so individual.

Kate Harlow: 00:39:33

Everyone's so separate there, and I look at Africans, I look

Kate Harlow: 00:39:37

at Kenyans, and they're so connected to each other. They're

Kate Harlow: 00:39:40

all helping each other out. Everyone's doing it together.

Kate Harlow: 00:39:44

They're not separate. They're just it's like so different

Kate Harlow: 00:39:47

here, and we're so individualistic, especially in

Kate Harlow: 00:39:50

North America, but I think most of the western world so

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individualistic, and it's so unnatural for us to be that way.

Kate Harlow: 00:39:59

I. Our souls need love and support and community. So that's

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such a big one. And then the third thing that I will say is

Kate Harlow: 00:40:08

this is your reset. So let yourself be reborn. Let yourself

Kate Harlow: 00:40:15

be reinvented. Let this time that you're going through this

Kate Harlow: 00:40:20

rupture, crack you open so that you can meet a whole new version

Kate Harlow: 00:40:26

of yourself, because that's what's available to you here,

Kate Harlow: 00:40:29

you can either stay stuck in the story, stay stuck in the

Kate Harlow: 00:40:32

identity of the thing that happened to you, or you can let

Kate Harlow: 00:40:36

this rupture crack you open so you can meet new parts of

Kate Harlow: 00:40:40

yourself you didn't even know were there. And there is so much

Kate Harlow: 00:40:44

inside of you you couldn't see. I mean, I am absolutely effing

Kate Harlow: 00:40:48

floored when I work with women. I've worked with, like I said,

Kate Harlow: 00:40:53

1000s of women at this point over the last 20 years, and it

Kate Harlow: 00:40:57

blows my mind how how much change is possible, like when I

Kate Harlow: 00:41:03

work with women, and from the beginning to the end, how much

Kate Harlow: 00:41:07

change is possible. And one of my beautiful, beautiful heroin

Kate Harlow: 00:41:11

sisters, that's what I call my clients. I don't like the word

Kate Harlow: 00:41:15

client. I had one of my beautiful heroin sisters, and I

Kate Harlow: 00:41:18

did our final call recently, and she there was a moment where she

Kate Harlow: 00:41:24

cried and just said, I actually love myself. I didn't know that

Kate Harlow: 00:41:28

was possible. I actually love myself, and that like I was

Kate Harlow: 00:41:32

actually crying at the same time. I don't know if I told her

Kate Harlow: 00:41:35

that, but it was it like that? Is it that? Is it like we have

Kate Harlow: 00:41:39

been taught to hate ourselves. Women have been literally

Kate Harlow: 00:41:42

fucking trained to hate ourselves. So no wonder life is

Kate Harlow: 00:41:46

so hard. So no wonder we get so hooked into the past and want to

Kate Harlow: 00:41:49

hold on to everything that was, that job, that relationship,

Kate Harlow: 00:41:53

that person who passed away, that that thing. We want to hold

Kate Harlow: 00:41:56

on. We want things to go back to the way they were, because we've

Kate Harlow: 00:41:59

been taught to hate ourselves, and men have been taught to love

Kate Harlow: 00:42:02

themselves, so they just go through life like, okay, things

Kate Harlow: 00:42:04

happen, they move through it, and they move on to the next

Kate Harlow: 00:42:07

thing, because they've been taught to believe in themselves.

Kate Harlow: 00:42:10

They've been taught to go for it. Women have been taught to be

Kate Harlow: 00:42:13

small and selfless and and to fucking think that we're just

Kate Harlow: 00:42:17

Barbies that aren't supposed to age, and we're supposed to stay

Kate Harlow: 00:42:19

stuck and stay the same, and we're supposed to we're supposed

Kate Harlow: 00:42:23

to be everything for everyone, and be selfless, less of a self

Kate Harlow: 00:42:25

and not, not supposed to even exist in our own lives like it's

Kate Harlow: 00:42:29

such a bullshit story that we were fed. This is your

Kate Harlow: 00:42:32

reinvention, my love. This is your opportunity to rise up for

Kate Harlow: 00:42:37

yourself, for that little girl inside of yourself who had to

Kate Harlow: 00:42:40

change who she was to fit the world around her. This is your

Kate Harlow: 00:42:43

opportunity to stand up for her and to create a new life and a

Kate Harlow: 00:42:49

new world, and to stand up for yourself and to love yourself in

Kate Harlow: 00:42:52

ways you never have before, to learn to love yourself, to learn

Kate Harlow: 00:42:56

to step into all those parts of you you forgot about, your

Kate Harlow: 00:42:59

sensuality, your power, your pleasure, your joy, your your

Kate Harlow: 00:43:05

expression, your your truth, your your your ability to say

Kate Harlow: 00:43:11

no, like whatever it is that you're growing into. Let this be

Kate Harlow: 00:43:15

your time. This is a gateway. Every time we go through a

Kate Harlow: 00:43:18

rupture, it's a portal. Every time we have a big contraction,

Kate Harlow: 00:43:22

it's a portal. It's a portal to a new world, to a new you, and

Kate Harlow: 00:43:27

let yourself be supported in it. So this is your invitation. This

Kate Harlow: 00:43:33

is your initiation to step into something new. This is your

Kate Harlow: 00:43:37

invitation from the universe, and this is your invitation from

Kate Harlow: 00:43:42

Kate Harlow to join the starting over program. It's $47 that's

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crazy. It's a $97 course for $47 this is it's going to be such a

Kate Harlow: 00:43:53

beautiful weekend, three days, November, 7 to ninth, 8am

Kate Harlow: 00:43:57

Pacific, till 1030 Pacific. Every morning, you'll be meeting

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women from around the world, amazing women who are on a

Kate Harlow: 00:44:05

similar path, who are devoted to themselves because they're

Kate Harlow: 00:44:09

showing up, but also going through big rupture in their

Kate Harlow: 00:44:12

lives. So you're going to have something in common. No matter

Kate Harlow: 00:44:15

what it is, there's something in common. There you go. There's

Kate Harlow: 00:44:19

the community. And it's going to be such a special weekend.

Kate Harlow: 00:44:22

You'll be you will be connecting with other women, and I'll be

Kate Harlow: 00:44:26

teaching, and there'll be practices, and it's going to be

Kate Harlow: 00:44:29

such a beautiful opportunity for you to rewrite your grief story,

Kate Harlow: 00:44:34

to rewrite your when things fall apart, story into things are

Kate Harlow: 00:44:37

coming together exactly as they're supposed to be, and to

Kate Harlow: 00:44:41

learn how to hold yourself through this time so you can

Kate Harlow: 00:44:44

rise and become the woman you were born to be. It is time. In

Kate Harlow: 00:44:48

astrology, there is so much change happening right now.

Kate Harlow: 00:44:51

Like, that's why the world feels so crazy, because it is so

Kate Harlow: 00:44:54

potent in astrology, like, no one's lives are going to look

Kate Harlow: 00:44:57

the same unless you're trying to, like, hold. On, in which

Kate Harlow: 00:45:00

case you're going to suffer a lot. It's like the person like

Kate Harlow: 00:45:02

holding on, and the the currents like smashing them in the face,

Kate Harlow: 00:45:06

and things are hitting them, branches and whatever, and

Kate Harlow: 00:45:10

they're just holding on, trying to stay in one place, rather

Kate Harlow: 00:45:12

than going with the flow of the stream, like it's time to let go

Kate Harlow: 00:45:17

and to go with the flow of life. Life is leading you. There's a

Kate Harlow: 00:45:20

higher intelligence on planet Earth, and there is a path that

Kate Harlow: 00:45:24

is meant for you. Life is leading you. You have a

Kate Harlow: 00:45:27

beautiful story that your soul is meant to experience this, not

Kate Harlow: 00:45:31

the old, outdated. I'm going to get married and have kids and

Kate Harlow: 00:45:34

and get a corner office and get a house and a picket fence and a

Kate Harlow: 00:45:37

dog, and I'm going to live happily ever after. Not to say

Kate Harlow: 00:45:40

there's anything wrong with any of those things inherently in

Kate Harlow: 00:45:43

themselves. The problem is where women are choosing from. It's

Kate Harlow: 00:45:46

not their soul. It's often their saboteur. We'll talk about that

Kate Harlow: 00:45:50

in the weekend, but this is an opportunity for you to rise and

Kate Harlow: 00:45:54

be supported and held and feel seen and and meet women

Kate Harlow: 00:45:59

who can be your buddies, your soul sisters, on the journey. So

Kate Harlow: 00:46:03

join me. November, 7 to ninth, 8am to 10:30am I almost said PM.

Kate Harlow: 00:46:09

Pacific. It's just two and a half hours each day. So Easy

Kate Harlow: 00:46:12

does it? Even if you have to miss a day, like, let's say you

Kate Harlow: 00:46:15

work on Friday, you can't get out of it. If you can get out of

Kate Harlow: 00:46:18

it, great. Pretend you're at a dentist appointment. If you

Kate Harlow: 00:46:20

can't get out of it, you're at the soul dentist. If you can't

Kate Harlow: 00:46:25

get out of it, and you have to miss one of the days there will,

Kate Harlow: 00:46:30

there will be a recording we can send you so you don't have to

Kate Harlow: 00:46:32

worry about missing it will be well worth your $47 to come no

Kate Harlow: 00:46:37

matter what. I promise you will be so worth your time. It's

Kate Harlow: 00:46:41

gonna be such a beautiful experience. And we get to hang

Kate Harlow: 00:46:43

out intimately on Zoom together. Get see your face. You get to

Kate Harlow: 00:46:46

see my face, and we get to hang out and and rise together. I,

Kate Harlow: 00:46:51

I'm going through a transition right now. I i Three and a half,

Kate Harlow: 00:46:55

four years ago, I left Vancouver, Canada, all the world

Kate Harlow: 00:46:59

that I knew it. I left a seven year relationship, and I moved

Kate Harlow: 00:47:02

to Greece, and I trusted my heart and i i Let everything go,

Kate Harlow: 00:47:07

and that was the biggest, most transformational time of my

Kate Harlow: 00:47:10

life. Oh, my God. Living in Greece changed me on every

Kate Harlow: 00:47:13

level. I can't even tell you, leaving that seven year

Kate Harlow: 00:47:15

relationship changed me on every level, and it took a long time

Kate Harlow: 00:47:18

to let go. Took, like, three years because, you know, there

Kate Harlow: 00:47:22

was a holding on that happened, but it changed me on every

Kate Harlow: 00:47:26

level, and now I'm going through another one. Just left a three

Kate Harlow: 00:47:29

year relationship, left my beloved Greece to move to

Kate Harlow: 00:47:33

Nairobi, Kenya and and now going through another massive

Kate Harlow: 00:47:38

transition again. So I'm on the path with you. You're not alone.

Kate Harlow: 00:47:43

I've been going through massive change too, except the only

Kate Harlow: 00:47:46

difference is I have all the tools, all the perspectives, all

Kate Harlow: 00:47:49

the resources, all the practices to be able to love and hold

Kate Harlow: 00:47:52

myself through it. So it's been easeful and graceful and

Kate Harlow: 00:47:55

expansive and inspiring and creative, and, you know, so

Kate Harlow: 00:48:01

magical. So one day, your transitions will be more

Kate Harlow: 00:48:04

magical, too. Maybe not all of them, okay, not all transitions

Kate Harlow: 00:48:08

can feel magical, but they all serve a purpose. So life is

Kate Harlow: 00:48:12

leading you somewhere new, and I'm here for it. I love you. I

Kate Harlow: 00:48:17

can't wait to see you at the starting over weekend. The link

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will be below this episode. I'm also going to have it in my bio

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on my Instagram. Kate Harlow, the unscripted woman, so

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definitely check that out there. Get the link. Sign up. The

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discount code is expand, E, x, P, A, N, D, capital letters. All

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capital letters. That's how you get your 50% off. Tell all your

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friends, if you know women going through big transition right

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now, like pretty much everyone is, so tell them, get your send

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them this episode and tell them you want to do this weekend with

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them. It's so much fun to do it. And if you're a heroin sister

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already in the community, join us. Love you. Love having you

Kate Harlow: 00:48:58

there. It's always the best when you were there, so I would love

Kate Harlow: 00:49:03

to see you there. I love you. Thank you so much for being a

Kate Harlow: 00:49:07

part of the new truth and all that's to all it's been and I'm

Kate Harlow: 00:49:11

really excited for what's coming, because that one of the

Kate Harlow: 00:49:14

big creative downloads was about the podcast, and just like

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feeling re inspired and reinvigorated. So yeah, that's

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it. Hope you enjoyed this episode. Oh, also reviews. I

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never talk about reviews, but apparently they're very helpful

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to grow the podcast. If you love the new truth, give me a review.

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Would be so nice to have a five star review and tell give us a

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little blurb about what the experience has been like for you

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one of the, I don't know, the Android ones, but it's

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everywhere except YouTube, and it's gonna be on YouTube soon.

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So might even be on YouTube with this video, I don't know, by the

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time this comes out. So sending you so much love, and I'll see

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you next week. You.